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Here in south Florida, which is a large three-county area approximately 140 miles long, we have our share of crime like most large urban areas. Almost anyone I speak with has had, or has a friend who had, some type of serious crime in their neighborhood.
In my heightened state of energy Tuesday afternoon after a SWAT team showed up in the neighborhood, I decided to call a grounded man who I know for some soothing. We talked about some possible deeper metaphysical and other meanings of the situation, a dream I had, and somehow ended the conversation co-creating a workshop idea together. How that happened I am not sure, but that would have never happened if I had not called because I wanted help in some way.
What struck me besides the situation in the neighborhood was that I decided to do what was a fear in my past: ask for help. In the past, if I had any need, I would never ask people for help. When deeply examined, we all have reasons why we do not ask for help. The important thing is to understand, and/or move through and beyond that behavior.
How many times do you want to achieve more in your life, realize that you need the resources, whether human or material, and do not ask for help out of fear? How many people are at a point where their business could expand if staff was hired, but the owner does not want people to help? How many relationships fall apart because people feel unloved or not needed, where in reality asking for help, giving and receiving, would have been so easy?
Next time you have a fear of asking for help, do it anyway. Just ask. Or, just hire someone, which is a form of asking for what you want. You will continue to stagnate if you do not keep things flowing by expanding or moving forward.
It takes practice; I know this well. Start by doing something easy, like hiring someone, or asking for an easy favor from someone who seems supportive and willing to help. Do this a few times, and then move to bigger requests. The more you do this, the easier it will become. If you are turned down, do not allow that to stop you: just ask someone else. You should see the lists of requests I have now! Intensify your life and don't be afraid to ask for help.
Published 10/26/09 at Morning Coach. |
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